There are somethings I never understood, simply because I was brought up differently. As I often mention, my family is a rather open and blatant one. I grew up in such an environment, hence I was terribly confused when I came across people like my classmates.
Morals. A word all too familiar to us. What are morals though? Does it not vary from person to person? Why does one enforce their morals onto the other? THAT was a concept I never understood. It was back in 4th grade, when I first came across the word ‘period’. My sister introduced the concept to me for she felt it was “time”. She gave me every ‘dirty’ detail and of course I felt it important to confront my mother for, obvious reasons. (The reasons being “sex” in my country was considered a rather indecent, immoral activity and clearly, I had just found out that my parents did it in order to bring me about.) My mother was forced to agree and of course my sister received a tiny lecture. However, moments later, she had managed to convince them that it was alright for me to know.
The next day, I was all fueled and excited to share my new knowledge with my friends. The knowledge wasn’t welcomed by them all however. Most were in denial, claiming that their parents had never had sex. The only thing that I told them straight to their faces was, “Well then you’re adopted!”. Although it brings about laughter today when I tell people the story, it didn’t have the same effect, years ago. I was bullied for knowing too much, “lying” and for misleading. Now that I’m all grown, I’ve started to wonder. What are our morals and why are these our morals? Why do I follow them? Do I want to? Do I need to? So many such questions were racing through my mind, and they still do. Why exactly do we lie to the younger ones about where babies come from? Of course, no need to go into detail for perhaps they won’t understand at such a young age. But why hide it at all? Why do we consider sex as immoral, at least why do most of us? I often come across the phrase “Sex is a form of art.” Doesn’t seem that way to many, evidently. I understand, it IS burdensome to end up pregnant at a young age, doesn’t mean we keep our youth all cooped up. Shouldn’t we be spreading awareness instead? Should we honestly push the usual, pointless beliefs onto the younger generation? Of course, we have sex-ed classes. No complaints at all. But how (again) blatant are they? Are they classes where they promote the idea that “Sex is bad and immoral” or are they the kind of classes where the idea of trust and privacy is promoted?
I come from a country where most of the population hasn’t gotten their chance at sex-ed. In fact, never once have we had a sex-ed class in my previous school. When there was an attempt made at teaching us all, the girls were too timid to mention their breasts until I got fed up and simply got up to talk about “boobs”. In my country, most girls are awfully timid to be themselves. Timid to be women. Why are we taught to hide and not be open about having boobs? It isn’t like men do not know of their existence. Why must one be conscious about their bra strap showing 24×7. Again, it isn’t like the people don’t know that we, GIRLS, wear bras. Why are we so timid and afraid of consequences, judgments and men?(Okay not necessarily afraid of men per se, but you get what I mean, right?) Are these morals honestly valid, necessary and “empowering” in any way? Do they NEED to exist?
It’s just that our society needs to think about these questions. Think about what they’re thinking and think about how rational they’re being. Why is it that we can’t all just go about our lives without prying into people’s personal lives and beliefs? Why don’t we just encourage individual thinking, help people see different perspectives rather than forcing our views on to them? And again, WHY is sex immoral, or rather, why is being a woman immoral? Why not focus on spreading awareness rather than focusing more on just completely spreading one’s beliefs? Perhaps then we could’ve prevented multiple cases of aids and other such STD’s. People should honestly start thinking and stop judging.
Sleepy rant~ feel like I could’ve written this better. More sleepy I am, the more my vocabulary shortens I guess. But honestly, recent incidents got me thinking. Shall proof read and form better sentences later. #Tingsthatkeepmeupatnight